Giving Myself Permission

by HEAB on January 12, 2012

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The other day, I was thinking about my plans and goals for 2012 as everyone does come January.  I was looking at the beautiful pages of Goddess Leonie’s Guidebook and Planner, and then I decided to check my Google Reader and low behold, I stumbled across this blog post. You see, not only does Leonie create beautiful art, but she also writes a pretty amazing blog.  This post spoke to me so much.  I’m such a people pleaser.  I never want to upset anyone, and in trying to keep everyone happy, guess who often ends up unhappy?  Me!  So, instead of creating goals and resolutions, etc., what I really hope to work on this year is taking better care of myself, and below are some of my favorite reminder’s from Leonie’s post:

You have permission to say no to demands on your time that don’t light you up, and don’t give energy back to you.

You have permission to say no whenever you like, however you like, in whatever kind of voice you like, without feeling like only Mean Girls Say No and Nice Girls Say Yes. That’s bull. Yes and No have equal weighting – what’s important is if you use them when they are the best thing for you, not out of fear, obligation or guilt. Such a struggle for me as I’m a huge over-committer!

You have permission to know that Yes is powerful, and so is No. The power comes from you using either from your highest spirit and truest integrity.

You have permission to change. You have permission to not be the person you once were.

You have permission to be exactly how you are.

You have permission to not be more like anyone else in the world, even if you think they are better, wiser or more popular. You have permission to be more like yourself, your gifts and your wisdom.

You have permission to not care what other people think of you.

You have permission to not try to change what other people think of you. You can’t ever argue that you are a good person. They will either know you are, or not. You don’t need to spend time with people who don’t believe in you.

You have permission to do things that your friends and family do not.

You have permission to be wild, expressive, truthful, exciting and outspoken.

You have permission to not accept friendship requests on Facebook, or anywhere else in your life. You have permission to block people whenever you like.

You have permission to share as much or as little as you like. You have permission to blog, or not blog. You have permission to Twitter, or not to Twitter. It doesn’t really matter. As long as it’s making you happy, that’s the best thing.

You have permission to suck at a wide variety of activities. It’s okay. You make up for it with your million other brilliance particles.

You have permission to be whatever body shape you like.

You have permission to be a contradiction.

You have permission to not be interested in the newest fad: harem pants, geek glasses, Polaroid cameras, scrapbooking, macrame. You also have permission to be totally obsessed with them, if it makes your heart light up. Haha, loved this one! I totally do not get the geek glasses thing.

You have permission to cut people from your life. You have permission to surround yourself with people who are good and loving and nurturing to you. Another good one.

You have permission to be a disappointment to some people, as long as you’re not a disappointment to yourself.

You have permission to do nothing whenever you like.

You have permission to think some people are crazy. You have permission to think some people are smigging ice-cream with chocolate and wafers and sprinkles and cherries on top.

You have permission to not have the perfect relationship.

You have permission to take whatever time you need for you.

You have permission to make ridiculous choices for yourself.

You have permission to use and listen to your intuition. To feel when things are off, and to remove yourself from them, even when you don’t quite know why. You will always find out why. Our intuition is here to serve us.

You have permission to be down. You have permission to be up.

You have permission to believe in things that other people think are very very odd and strange. You have permission to not care.

You have permission to believe in things that make your life wholer, richer and deeper. You have permission to make your own world that is the truest painting of you.

You have permission to not be the best of anything – just the best of yourself. And some days, just the best you can do that day.

You have permission to not always give. You have permission to fill your own cup up first.

You have permission to have things around you that delight you.

You have permission to live in a tipi if you want to, or a mansion. Whatever makes your spirit shine is the right thing for you.

You have permission to say no to demands on your time that don’t light you up, and don’t give energy back to you.
So, giving myself permission is going to be my theme for 2012. I give myself permission to say no more often, without always having to back it up with an apology and an excuse.  I give myself permission to spend as much time as possible with my husband and daughter completely focused on them and not worry about my many to-do lists.  I give myself permission to read the Bible more often.  I give myself permission to love my house and be content with what I already have (I spend way too much time coveting things I don’t need on Pinterest!)  I give myself permission to do more artsy and creative things because they make me happy.

Started the above frame project yesterday, and even if I only get to work on it ten minutes a day, that’s still ten minutes of doing something I love.

OK, I could go on and on, but I want to do a little painting before nap time ends.  What are you writing in your Planner, and what are you giving yourself permission to do today/this year?